Monday, January 7, 2013

Why I Won't Be Going on a Diet in 2013


I'm overweight. That's a fact. I'm not one of those skinny girls who says 'Oh I'm so fat' but is actually stick thin...I need to lose close to a hundred pounds to be a healthy weight for my height and age. I've struggled with my weight my entire life. I know how to lose weight - I know all about eating right and exercising and burning more calories than you consume and the foods you stay away from, etc, etc, etc. I know all that, it's just putting it into practice that's my downfall. 

Three years ago, I lost about 25 pounds - the most I've ever lost. I looked better and I felt better, but then I fell back into old habits and gained weight, lost weight, gained wait, and on and on. Right now I'm 15 pounds lighter than my heaviest adult weight, which means I gained 10 of the 25 pounds back.

I've tried so many different things, but what it comes down to is a simple equation: healthy eating + exercise = weight loss. And of course, if you've ever tried to lose weight, whether it was 5 pounds or 100 pounds, you'll know that by 'simple' I actually mean 'one of the hardest things in the world'. You have to make up your mind that you want it, otherwise it's not going to work and it's not going to be simple, which is why there's an obesity epidemic in North America.

So, to the title of this blog post: the reason I won't be going on a diet in 2013. I hate diets. Diets are about being hungry, depriving yourself, and basically going crazy. Diets are temporary. You eat healthy for a certain amount of time, you might lose weight, but then if you go back to your old habits, you're just going to gain the weight back. What good does that do? It's frustrating and degrading and futile. People need to stop 'going on diets' and learn that the solution is not a temporary one - it's about healthy eating for the rest of your life. Does that mean you can't indulge? Hell no. Everything in moderation. If you want a cookie, have a cookie, just don't eat the whole bag. And realize that treats are just that - treats. They're not meant for every day, or sometimes even every week. Depriving yourself will usually just lead to binge eating, and then you're right back where you started.

As for exercise, the 25 pounds I lost three years ago was from walking. That's it. I walked outside when I could, and I marched on the spot when I couldn't go outside. And you don't even have to do it all at once if that seems daunting, or if for some reason you can't walk for long periods. Break it up throughout the day, because it all adds up. It doesn't matter how you do it, it just matters that you do it.

I'd been eating a ton of junk the last month between my birthday, Christmas, and New Year's, so on January 1st, I decided to go on a 2-day cleanse. It was just a short one to see how I did; I didn't follow any specific cleanse, I just sort of made it up as I went along. This is what I did: lots of water, no coffee, limited sugar and fat, no alcohol, no pop, tons of fruits and veggies, lean meats, reduced carbs. Pretty simple right? When I got on the scale the 3rd day, I'd lost two and a half pounds, and the best part was I didn't have to starve myself to do it. 

Here's a break down in case anyone would like to try something similar: 
Breakfast: smoothie (frozen berries, an individual-sized container of yogurt, a medium-sized banana)
Lunch: homemade turkey and vegetable soup, minus the turkey (I boiled the bones from our Christmas turkey and was left with a ton of stock, to which I added peas, corn, and broccoli, but no turkey because I'd already frozen the leftovers), and raw veggies on the side
Dinner, Day 1: baked haddock (it was BlueWater Simply Bake frozen fish that you cook in a steamer bag - 130 calories, 2.5 grams of fat - it was delicious!), brown rice cooked with onions, garlic, and peas, and steamed broccoli. 
Dinner, Day 2: braised pineapple chicken (a chicken breast braised in chicken stock and pineapple juice with pineapple tidbits thrown in), leftover onion-garlic-pea rice, steamed mixed veggies (carrots, water chestnuts, peas in the pod, broccoli)
Snacks: fruit, raw veggies, whole grain crackers

Eating healthy doesn't mean sacrificing flavour - I added less salt than usual (not that I add that much to begin with, and I always use sea salt) and no butter to anything, and the meals were delicious and filling. You just need to get creative!

I say this every year, but I'm going to do my best to stick with it in 2013: this year I'm going to get healthy. I'm not going to do anything radical, and I'm not going to make it my main focus (that's been my problem before - I obsess and then burn out), but I'm going to do this. I have to do this - for my health, for my self-esteem, for my future.

Do you have health-related goals for 2013? Have you struggled with your weight the way I have?


    


Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Welcome, 2013! Let the awesome begin!



I don’t really know how to describe 2012. It was better than some, and I wouldn’t even go so far as to say it was worse than others, it was just…a lot of the same. A lot of monotony. However, I’ll take that over tragedy and heartache any day, so I don’t feel right complaining. But…there were times it felt like these four walls were closing in on me and that nothing would ever change. I got tired of the same routine day in and day out, but I didn’t really do much to change it…I didn’t know what I could do.

2013 will be different. I can feel it. I can feel the possibilities, the change in the air, the change in me. 2013 is going to be EPIC, I just know it. I haven't felt this hopeful in a really long time.

A few highlights of 2012: 



 *Achieving my lifelong dream of becoming a published author in January, and then publishing two more books throughout the year

*Going to Cobourg with my sister-in-law to meet Gail Vaz-Oxlade



*Watching one of my best childhood friends get married and having my other best childhood friend as my date



*This is out of chronological order, but…Jenn’s bridal shower and bachelorette - day drunk, old friends, crazy dares, and dancing


*Going to Watertown for a day of shopping


*Finding out I’m going to be an aunt again!



*Spending so much time with Logan. I didn’t get to see Noah nearly as much as I wanted to this year, but Logan was here a lot between Amanda going to school and then working. I got to see more of him this past year than I ever did of Noah at that age, and I feel like I got to shape his mind and turn him into the crazy, wonderful little person he is. He was so receptive to everything I taught him, and he’s just the best baby ever. I feel so blessed to have both him and Noah in my life, and soon another little niece or nephew!

2013 Goals
Get healthy
I say this every year, but this is something I have to do. No more excuses. I'm going to do this differently than usual though: I'm not going to put as much pressure on myself as I usually do. I'm going to work steadily but not make it my main focus or become obsessive about it, because that's always my down-fall - I burn out. I'm actually going to be talking more about my health-related goals in a post later this week. 

Journal 
I’ve journalled on and off since I was little but I’ve never really stuck with it. My Grama kept journals from the time she was a young woman until she died. We have dozens of them, and I cherish them like you wouldn’t believe. I want my children and grandchildren to have mine someday, but it won’t be worth it if it’s a few random, inconsistent entries. I’m determined 2013 is going to be the best year ever, so it’ll be incentive to keep a journal regularly. I’ve actually already started. :-) 

Take more pictures 
There were times this year when I was really camera-happy, and I even learned a few new tricks just from playing around, but next year I really want to use my camera as if it were an extension of myself. I want to capture moments, feelings, memories, and even if no one but me ever sees the pictures, they’ll be my little moments in time to look at and remember. 

Go out more! 
Go out, have a life, do things, LIVE. I didn't do enough living in 2012. I want to have adventures and take chances and laugh til I cry and dance and be silly and HAVE FUN. I'm tired of being a hermit, I'm tired of letting my social anxiety hold me back. Life is meant for living and I need to get out there and live it! 

Make this blog more of a priority 
The times when I go for weeks without posting are usually because I don’t really have anything to share. 2012 was a pretty quiet (read: boring) year in my personal life, but I’m determined to change that in 2013, so I will be posting about my adventures, posting more pictures, and talking about projects and maybe even sharing a few recipes or how-tos.

I feel like 2012 was the year I really got my professional life started. I wrote almost non-stop, published three works, and wrote several others to publish in 2013. I feel like I'm getting that aspect of my life under control and it's all coming together nicely, and now 2013 is the year to carry that on but also get my personal life going. It can't all be about work, and I'm ready to detach myself from the computer a bit and have some fun!

Wishing you all a healthy, happy, love-filled, prosperous, AMAZING 2013!! <3


    


Monday, December 24, 2012

My 29th birthday

Last Sunday (the 16th), I celebrated my 29th birthday. I'm now officially in the last year of my twenties. *gulp* It's actually not bothering me as much as it has other years. I'm feeling hopeful, like great things are right around the corner. I'm determined to make 29 EPIC - the best year ever.

As we do every year, Mum threw a small party here at home. My brother couldn't come, but my sister-in-law and nephews did. We spent the afternoon playing, eating, taking pictures, and watching movies. It was a lot of fun. I think I can say without reservation that it was one of the best birthdays I've had in a really long time - not only because I got to spend it with my family, but because I got the best news ever just after midnight: my second novel, THE GAME CHANGER, made it onto a bestseller list! It broke into the top 100 books in the Women's Fiction category on Amazon, and stayed there all day. It was incredibly exciting, and it felt like validation for all the hard work I've done all year. I've busted my ass this entire year - had no social life, barely saw anyone or left the house - and getting that recognition felt like my reward. I'm just hoping and praying sales stay as high as they are. *crosses fingers*

Also, late that night, I checked my email and found out I'd won a Kindle, which was super awesome! I have a Kobo, but having a Kindle would be incredible because there are so many ebooks that are only available on Kindle. Plus now I can share my ereaders with my mum, which I'm not really able to do now. 

So you see...epic start to an epic year. I have so many things I want to accomplish this year, and I'm sure I'll talk about them all, just not tonight. ;-)

Mmm, Dairy Queen ice cream cake!
Me and my babies <3
Amanda, me, and the boys
Nana (Mum) and Logan
The birthday princess! This was one of the gifts Amanda and the boys gave me - I love Paris (I have a small collection of Eiffel Tower knick-knacks I got in Paris when I was 17, plus a few things friends have gotten me over the years), so Amanda found this print and there's a switch on the side that you can flip to make little lights appear on the Tower...soooo cool

    





Sunday, December 9, 2012

Family news!

I know I've done a terrible job at keeping this blog up-to-date, and I know that nearly every time I post I say I'll try to do better and then I don't, but...well, I'm going to try now! *crosses fingers* I had good intentions for updating in November, but the month was crazy hectic, between publishing my second novel, participating in NaNoWriMo, watching Logan, being sick, and about a million other things.

So...today I'm back and I have some news: my family is growing again! My brother and sister-in-law are expecting their third child in June. I'm going to be an aunt again! We're all really hoping for a girl this time - even Noah, who's ten. It's funny, because my brother was ten when I was born, and he really wanted a baby sister. What little boy wants a sister? Well, my brother did and he got his wish, and I was his special little buddy from day one. I think it would be so cool if now, all these years later, history repeated itself and Noah got a baby sister at the age of ten. 

My sister-in-law is just a little over 14 weeks, so it'll be another few weeks before we find out the sex, but we already have names chosen for both a boy and a girl just in case. I got to go to an ultrasound with her a couple weeks ago and see the baby. It was so cool! I went to an appointment of Logan's and heard his heartbeat, but this was the first time I got to see an ultrasound. 

Look at my tiny little human!

So that's my big news. I'm sure there will be lots more baby-related updates in the coming months.

    


Friday, October 26, 2012

Friday's Letters #7



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Friday's Letters is hosted by Ashley over at Adventures of Newlyweds. This has been a really busy week for me, and it's looking like it'll be a busy weekend, too. I swear I need a few more hours in the day just to get everything done.




Dear NaNoWriMo, I am excited and terrified to do you. I think I might lose what little sanity I have left by attempting this, but book #4 needs to get written sometime, so why not amid the chaos of thousands of other crazy writers trying to write 50,000 words in 30 days?
Dear everyone who happens to be reading this, my second novel, The Game Changer, comes out in two and a half weeks (eeeeeeep!!!). I’m having a promotional giveaway on my book blog, and I’d love if you’d enter and help me spread the word about the book!
Dear Magic Mike, I'm so glad you're finally out on DVD! Even though I saw you twice in the theatre, I had to own you. And dear Mum, thank you for watching it with me...it was equal parts awkward and hilarious.
Dear Jessica, thank you for being such an incredible friend. It's kind of crazy when I think that even though you're hundreds of miles away, you've been a better friend over the past few months than most of my 'real life' friends. You always brighten my day and make me smile. 
Dear Noah, I was so, so happy to see you yesterday and get a big hug and kiss. Auntie misses you so much! I just don't get to see you often enough. I'm so glad you loved my idea of being a pirate for Halloween and that you're going to let me put your costume together. You'll look awesome, I promise. AND I'm super excited that I get to go trick-or-treating with you and Logan...Halloween is my favourite holiday, but I haven't had a chance to celebrate it for a few years now. Wait til you see my costume, you're gonna flip!
Dear Amanda, I'm sorry you're so sick, and I really hope the doctors find out what's wrong with you soon. This is going on two years now, and after countless trips to doctors and specialists, and dozens of tests, this is beyond ridiculous. 
Dear weekend, you and I are going to get along just fine. I thought I would be on babysitting duty, but I unexpectedly have the weekend off! Perfect timing too, because I have a ton of stuff to do...and I'd like to get caught up on my reading.
Dear mail carrier lady, UPS man, and Canada Post man, I had to stop myself from kissing you on several occasions this week for bringing me such awesome parcels. I can't wait to do my book haul vlog this weekend and show off all my awesome new books!
Dear Suleena, I can't wait until we go shopping in the States. You need to hurry up and pick a date! At 11:19 last night I realized it was two months until Christmas...gah! How did that happen?


 
  

Thursday, October 25, 2012

The Game Changer Spread the Word Giveaway


On my book blog, Ramblings of a Daydreamer, I'm having a giveaway for people who help me spread the word about The Game Changer via Twitter, Facebook, Google +, blogs, etc. If you'd like to win one of 20 new releases, hop on over to Ramblings of a Daydreamer and enter the giveaway!



Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Happy stuff, excitement, and a meltdown

It seems like I usually use this blog to talk about the stuff that's bothering me. Today I actually have something I'm happy and excited about: my second novel, The Game Changer. It comes out three weeks from today. It feels like I've been working on this book forever. I started it right after the release of Blue Sky Days, and it took me several months to write because I had so much else going on in my life. When I finished writing it, I set it aside rather than starting revisions right away, and I ended up writing my third book in the meantime. When book #3 was done, I started revisions on The Game Changer, sent it out to beta readers, and long story short, here I am, three weeks before publication. 

I posted the very first excerpt of the book on Ramblings of a Daydreamer today. It was exciting and nerve-wracking to share a little piece of the book. All morning I've had butterflies and barfy feelings lol. I also have a giveaway up and a request for people to help me spread the word about the book, since I haven't done much to promote it. If you'd like to read the excerpt and help me spread the word in exchange for a chance to win an awesome new book of your choice, head on over to Ramblings of a Daydreamer

I just finished revisions for the book last night, and I'm not even technically done because I need one more set of eyes to read over it, and that set of eyes is very busy this week. It's stressing me out, because the longer it takes her, the longer I have to push back formatting and sending the book out to reviewers. But...for right now I have a little reprieve. I actually don't know what to do with myself today. My sister-in-law has been sick the last few days, so I unexpectedly had today and yesterday off from babysitting duty. Goodness knows I have  a ton of stuff to do - my apartment is a mess, I have books lying all over my room because I need to organize my shelves, I need to catch up on blogging, reading, and writing articles for the site I freelance with....but right now I'm just enjoying a little quiet time.

So now we come to the meltdown part of the blog title. Just before writing this post, I realized I hadn't written the acknowledgements for The Game Changer. When I wrote Blue Sky Days, I thanked practically everyone I'd ever known, but this time it's just going to be people who had something to do with The Game Changer. I started writing and got a little teary, as I always do...I'm a sentimental sort...and then I got to the part where I wanted to thank my Grama (who's been gone for over a year now, and who I talked about quite a bit when I started Lost and Found), and I had a full-on meltdown. I went from a little trickle of tears to hysterical crying, and I couldn't stop. I miss her like crazy, and sometimes it hits me all over again that she's gone, but I think it was more than that. I think it was just everything that's happened in the last few months while I've been trying to be so strong and it all just caught up to me in a moment of weakness. I'm actually kind of sitting here laughing about it now, which probably means I've lost my mind. It feels better to get it all out, and it also feels really nice to have a break, however short, before the chaos starts up again.